After the Crash
What This Story Taught Us About Getting Your Affairs in Order
Last week, I shared the story of my former brother-in-law. He survived the motorcycle crash, but what came after was something none of us were prepared for. It had nothing to do with the accident, and everything to do with his lack of planning.
If you missed it, you can read the story here: He Survived the Crash
This story struck a nerve. Many readers told me they’ve seen something similar, are living through it right now, or have not made any plans for themselves. Estate planning and getting your affairs in order is not just about inheriting money, but also about making your wishes known so the people you love are not left guessing what to do if something tragic happens to you.
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It doesn’t have to be perfect. You just have to start.
STEP ONE: Have the Conversation
The very first step is simple: have the conversation. Talk with trusted family or friends about your wishes, your medical preferences, and who you trust to make decisions on your behalf.
Ask the hard questions:
Who do I trust to make medical decisions for me if I can’t speak for myself?
What kind of medical care would I want, or not want, in a serious situation?
Who should handle my finances or pay my bills if I’m unable to?
If something happened to me, do my loved ones know where to find important information?
What matters most to me at the end of life, comfort, longevity, or something else?
Are there any specific wishes I feel strongly about that my family should know?
STEP TWO: Identify your Decision Makers
Before any legal documents are prepared, you should choose trusted people for health care and finance decisions.
Health Care Decision-Maker - Someone who can make medical decisions if you become incapacitated. Often called a Medical Power of Attorney or Health Care Proxy.
Financial Decision-Maker - Someone trusted to manage money, pay bills, and access accounts if needed. Known as a Durable Power of Attorney for Finances.
Discuss Your Wishes with Them - Preferences for medical care, life-sustaining treatment, and hospitalization, living arrangements and caregiving preferences, funeral, burial, cremation or donation wishes.
STEP THREE: Gather key financial and personal records including:
Bank, savings and investment account information
Social Security number and benefits info
Pension and retirement
Insurance policies
Deeds, property titles, and home ownership info
Car titles (including motorcycles, boats and RVs)
Passwords, Usernames for digital accounts, and instructions for online access
Codes/Keys to Safes, Safety Deposit Boxes, PO Boxes
Key Contacts: family, friends, lawyers, financial advisors
Medical History: medications, doctors, allergies, and health history
Funeral Wishes: burials vs cremation or donation.
STEP FOUR: Identify the Most Important Documents to Create
Last Will and Testament: Specifies who inherits property and possessions. Names an executor.
Durable Power of Attorney (Financial): Authorizes a trusted person to handle finances if incapacitated.
Medical Power of Attorney / Health Care Proxy: Names a designated person to make health care decisions.
Advance Directive / Living Will: States preferences for treatments like resuscitation, hospitalization, or life support.
HIPAA Authorization: Allows health care providers to share medical information with chosen family or caregivers.
Additional Protection (When Appropriate)
Revocable Living Trust if you: Own a home, want to avoid probate, have a blended family, want more control over how and when assets are distributed, are concerned about privacy (trusts are not public like wills)
Important Asset Transfer Tools: Beneficiary designations, Payable-on-death accounts, Transfer on Death Deeds for real estate
STEP FIVE: Create a “Life File” to Organize All Your Information
Even before formal documents are completed, you need to gather all critical papers into one folder / binder / safe. You should also create a back-up jump drive or other digital file.
Make sure several key people are able to locate and access your Life File.
This makes it easier for family or caregivers in an emergency, so they are not left searching aimlessly while under stress.
Preparation is one of the greatest gifts you can leave your family. Because when the unexpected happens, it’s not just your life you’ve organized, it’s the burden you’ve lifted from someone else. I’ve experienced what happens when this is not taken care of before a tragedy.
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